loving this series! I've been thinking about external validation a lot recently too. A lot of labels we don't actually value, but we want to *become* the person we think is worthy of that label. So we're in a backwards process: we want a label because it proves something about us. but really, labels should come naturally as a result of doing actions we love
Thanks so much for reading and replying Jamie! I appreciate you for choosing to read this.
I agree with you. A lot of this seems to stem from a lack of self-acceptance and love in the first place! And it's kind of crazy because with this whole idea of Performance Based Love, why should the label matter? Why do we have to explain ourselves?
More thoughts to come - time to go back to battle with ideas :)
loving this series! I've been thinking about external validation a lot recently too. A lot of labels we don't actually value, but we want to *become* the person we think is worthy of that label. So we're in a backwards process: we want a label because it proves something about us. but really, labels should come naturally as a result of doing actions we love
Thanks so much for reading and replying Jamie! I appreciate you for choosing to read this.
I agree with you. A lot of this seems to stem from a lack of self-acceptance and love in the first place! And it's kind of crazy because with this whole idea of Performance Based Love, why should the label matter? Why do we have to explain ourselves?
More thoughts to come - time to go back to battle with ideas :)
Thanks for reading Ahmet!